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Khalid Dhorat

PAY YOUR HELPERS GENEROUSLY THIS EID AL-ADHA
(Based on the practice and advise of Marhoom Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Rahimahullah)

Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel (Rahimahullah) used to always pay his domestics and helpers extra, and he did so the very same day or night, for any work done outside of their normal work agreed upon.
Out domestics, shop helpers etc normally work extra when there’s any function, like Ēid , weddings , braai functions, etc.

At the end of the function, we just give them some extra food, thinking that by doing so, we are very generous employers and have adequately compensated them for their extra work.
The reality , however, is that we have only fooled ourself by doing so. Actually, we have oppressed our staff/domestics/helpers by doing so. 

It’s our duty to feed them in any case, but they had agreed to help us out after hours for proper wages, and not just for food which they have at home in any case. 

Yes, If you gave them extra food, ﷲ͜عَزَّوَجَــــلwill reward you for it , but the extra work you took out from them without rewarding them is a sure form of zulm (oppression)
Many people seen Hazrat Maulana first hand paying his domestics and staff extra that same day or evening when the guests had left. And it was a decent amount.

Hazrat Maulana would also always remark: “We make our office or shop staff wash our cars and clean our gardens in order to save money, yet we don’t pay them for it. It’s not their duty to do these additional menial tasks.”

On the day of Ēid ul Adhaa too, let’s not give the head, feet, intestines and other parts of the carcass that we normally don’t consume, to our helpers. 

This does not constitute payment at all. We should, in addition to providing food and these extras to them, make them also feel the happiness of Ēid by appreciating their services well.

 Pay them well for the day.

Hazrat Maulana was a real champion of human rights and an embodiment of the Sunnah by practice , not only speech.

May ﷲ͜عَزَّوَجَــــل forgive Hazrat Maulana and grant him the highest stages in Jannatul Firdous 

❥آمـــــين يَارَبَّ الْعَــــالَمِينْ❥

JAMIATUL ULAMA KZN 
COMMUNICATING LIKE BEST FRIENDS

 

By Maulana Khalid Dhorat

 

What a WhatsApp conversation looks like after a few years into a typical marriage:

“Need bread.”

“K”

 

I mean, come on: “K”? Not even an “o” to make that miserable “k” look a little less miserable!! But the truth is the “K” response is still a whole lot better than a husband completely ignoring this daily drudgery request of bringing some item of necessity home.

 

What happens to married people’s manners, enthusiasm and most importantly good assumptions when talking to their spouses? Is it okay to talk this way because you’re just so used to someone? Why do we not talk this way to people we’ve been friends with for years? What makes a spouse less-deserving of respect, enthusiasm and affection when no one deserves it more than them (except our parents) for choosing to live every single day with us? 

 

Why do we not talk to our spouses like we talk to our best friends, even though they are much closer to us than anyone will ever be?

 

Happy Muslim couples talk like best friends, in good times and in conflict. In good times, they wait to tell each other about their day, they joke, laugh, share ideas, flirt, complement each other, respect their spouse’s right to hold different opinions and learn from each other’s opposing points of view. In fact, happy Muslim couples communicate just like how our noble Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam communicated with his wives.

 

Once, our mother Sayyidah Aisha Radiallahu Anha narrated that Allah’s Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam said to her: “I know when you are pleased with me or angry with me.” I said, “Whence do you know that?” 

He said, “When you are pleased with me, you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Muhammad,’ but when you are angry with me, then you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Abraham.’ ” Thereupon I said, “Yes (you are right), but by Allah, O Allah’s Messenger, I leave nothing but your name.” (Bukhari)

 

Couples that have learnt to communicate effectively do away with the majority of marital stress because they become so attuned to each other’s feelings. They can immediately sense the emotional state of their spouse through the slightest change in words or tone. And as our beloved mother, Sayyidah Aisha Radiallahhu ‘Anha put it so beautifully – even in anger. Happy, loving Muslim spouses never desert anything more than each other’s name when they try to communicate that they feel wronged or hurt. They never desert love and respect for each other in conflict: this, is the key to staying happy in your marriage.

 

Dr John Gottman, a world-renowned marriage researcher, has claimed that can determine whether or not a couple will eventually get divorced with 90 percent accuracy. A part of his analysis includes listening closely to their language. According to his research, here are the four most dangerous types of communication that destroys marriages:

 

1. Criticism

 

There is a huge difference between giving your spouse loving feedback and attacking their character.

 

When you criticize your spouse, you are identifying their faults to make them feel bad about themselves. Be careful not to harmfully judge your partner in ways that belittles them or makes them feel inferior to you. Rather, give them compliments and focus on their strengths. When you speak in terms of their weaknesses, frame them in a positive way. Talk about how their actions affect you, and give suggestions in humility and with love.

 

A bad communication example: “You are so lazy! You never pick up after yourself. Your mother didn’t teach you table manners.”

 

A positive example: “I’m having a difficult time keeping up with all the chores, and I’m starting to get frustrated and overwhelmed. Do you mind taking over the dinner dishes? That would be really helpful to me.”

 

2. Contempt

 

If you are name calling, insulting, mocking or ridiculing your spouse, you are verbally abusing them and showing contempt. Stop it now. It will get you nowhere. 

 

Being mean and rude to your spouse is disrespectful and extremely harmful. They don’t deserve it, and neither do you. Even if you are “just joking”, it is hostile humor and should be avoided at all costs. Always treat your spouse with respect. Find ways to uplift them. Be kind, tender, considerate, and loving.

 

A bad communication example: “You are so untidy that even a dog looks better than you. Pretend not to be my wife when we go out for shopping.”

 

A positive example:  “I really love that red outfit that you haven’t worn in a long time. Can I get it ironed for you if it’s creased?”

 

3. Defensiveness

 

When there is a problem, do you constantly place the blame on your spouse? Are you always the victim? If you never take responsibility for your actions, and constantly make your spouse the “bad guy”, you are destructively defensive.

 

Being always defensive, never even considering what your partner is saying or soul searching within yourself invalidates their feelings. It is one-sided, controlling and manipulative. If you are defensive, you are constantly looking for excuses, instead of admitting you are wrong. You do not want to grow in a relationship, but wants to have it your way all the time. 

 

Bad example: “It’s not my fault that we missed the payment! You never take responsibility for anything or even remind me of anything. If you are a little more alert, we wouldn’t have these types of problems.”

 

Good example: “I’m so sorry that we missed the payment. It’s my fault that it happened. Maybe we can work on delegating responsibilities better, so that we don’t have this problem again.”

 

4. Stonewalling

 

Saying nothing can be just as harmful as saying something. “Stonewalling” is when the listener completely shuts off from the conversation. They may ignore their spouse or even leave the room completely. They close off, tune out, act busy, and turn away.

 

When your spouse is upset, don’t give them the silent treatment. It’s another form of disrespect. Instead, listen carefully to them. Try to understand their concerns.

Ignoring the situation never helps solve a problem. Yes, to temporary avoid an issue until both are calm is OK.

 

In conclusion, no matter how angry and upset you may be, always communicate out of love. Have patience with each other and give each other space to grow within the relationship. Miscommunication robs a partner off his/her personality and this eventually leads to breakdown in marriage. May Allah Ta’ala grant happiness to all couples and give them the tools to navigate the wonderful ship called marriage.

 

JAMIATUL ULAMA KZN  

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THE LOVER OF CATS,
THE MAGNAFICENT SAYYADINA ABU HURAIRAH
(Radiallahu Ta’laa ‘Anhu)
 
Following the unfortunate debacle that took place on Saturday evening, 22nd July 2017, wherein Joey Rasdien – a Muslim comedian from Cape Town – disparaged  one of the greatest Sahabah (Companions) of Rasulullah (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam), I was delighted for one reason, and disturbed for another.
 
I was delighted that many Muslims took objection at the outright slander of such a great Sahabi. Many Muslims still have deep love and admiration for our foremost heroes – that illustrious galaxy of personages who were guaranteed paradise by Allah Ta’ala in the Qur’an. Although some of the responses to Rasdien may have been excessive, but the dictate of one’s imaan (faith) does not allow some people to take such calumny sitting down. There is still hope in our community, it’s our approach that needs to be modified a bit – but never, NEVER stop defending the Sahabah and Islam in words and deed. It will indeed be a sad day when there is none to stand up for his beliefs.
 
Rasdien was brave enough to apologize and he is admired for his retraction, but the mission to defend the Sahabah and clear their characters from all blemish, will remain for all time.
 
Now for the second part. I was disgusted at how  an audacious slander like accusing a great Sahabi of narrating 40 000 ahadith, implying that he was a fabricator/forger of hadith, seems to be circulating amongst the Muslim masses and becoming common! Such slander does not materialize from thin air. In fact, it is the common slander of the Shi’ahagainst Sayyadina Abu Hurairah (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) which the evil Shi’ah priests are currently indoctrinating Muslims with. If we Muslims knew our ‘Aqidah (Fundamental Beleifs) and History properly, we will not fall for the evil schemes of the disbelieving Shi’ah who wish to poison our minds against Islam’s most illustrious sons. Abuse would not have casually slipped out of the mouth of people like Rasdien in order to entertain people, thus unwittingly robbing them off their imaan (faith).
 
We Muslims are ignorant of our own religion. The avenues and opportunities of learning are abundant in SA, yet we will choose to remain ignorant, thus allowing disbelieving sects like the Shi’ah to corrode our faith from the back door. People are fond of blaming the ‘Ulema for their ignorance, but this is just an excuse that holds no water. Everyone is dutibound to learn, the scholars are there to teach. 
 
Having said that, we must again never see a repeat of this nature anywhere in the ummah – be it in the form of satire from a comedian or as a well disguised innuendo from a glib-tongued evil scholar. All of us heard the slander, now let’s spare a few minutes to learn a little of the towering personality who was slandered, and why is he being slandered:    
 
1.     Sayyadina Abu Huraira (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) was born in Baha, Yemen. His real name was Abd al-Shams, but he was nicknamed Abu Hurairah by none other than Rasulullah (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam) when he seen his fondness for cats. This Sahabi would feed all the stray cats around Masjid Nabawi with whatever food he could find, and all the cats would be always around him! He became so famous by this name that today very people actually know his true name!.
 
2.    Sayyadina Abu Huraira (Radillahu ‘Anhu) was amongst the trustworthy and scholarly Sahabah of this ummah. He was placed in-charged of looking after Masjid al-Nabawi when Holy Prophet (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam) went to Khyber – the same year he accepted Islam (7 A.H).
 
3.    Sayyadina Abu Huraira (Radillahu ‘Anhu) has reported just over 5 000 Ahadith (not 40 000 as the slanderers accuse him of) which are mentioned in great books of tradition like Sahih Bukhari and Muslim. He was from the esteemed people of Suffah (Platform), and cared not to earn a living in Madinah. His only concern was to gaze at the face of Rasulullah (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam), be in his constant service, and to record whatever his noble Master (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam) uttered. He perceived that people would accuse him of forging some ahadith due to it’s sheer number,  and so he himself narrates:
 
I said “O Prophet of Allah (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam), I hear the holy utterences from you but I forget them”. Hearing this Holy Prophet (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam) directed me to stretch my sheet. I obeyed. The Lord of the Universe (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam) raised his blessed hands and scooped something from the air and emptied it into the sheet, He (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam) then directed me to take it and clasp it to my chest, I did so. Since then I have never forgotten anything. (Sahih Bukhari Shareef)
 
4.    Rasulullah (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam) took Sayyadina Abu Huraira (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) with him on a series of Jihad expeditions immediately after the battle of Khaibar like Wadi al-Qurra and Zaat Ar-Riqaa’ wherein he even prayed Salatul Khauf with Rasulullah (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam). He was present at the time of Conquering Makkah in the Battle of Tabook in 9 A.H.
 
During the Caliphate of Sayyadina ‘Umar (Radillahu ‘Anhu), he also participated in the epic Battle of Yarmouk  which collapsed the power of the Roman Empire. The historian Ibn Asakir in his Tarikh Damishq, writes that the Banu Azd, with its sub group of the Banu Dos, with Sayyadina Abu Huraira (Radiallahu Anhu) at its core, was on the right wing of the Islamic army. Ibn Asakir narrates that Sayyadina Abu Huraira (Radillahu ‘Anhu) rallied the Mujahideen thus:
 
 “O valiant believers! The damsels (houris) of Paradise are awaiting you. Prepare yourself to meet them. Prepare to gain the approach to Allah and to be accepted by Allah. At this time, no place is dearer to Allah than the one where you are standing.” Ibn Kathir, another noted historian, writes that Sayyadina Abu Huraira (Radillahu ‘Anhu) also participated in expeditions as far away as Jilan and Jurjan during the Caliphate of Sayyadina ‘Uthman (Radillahu ‘Anhu).
 
5.    Sayyadina Abu Hurairah (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) remained neutral in the conflict between Sayyadina Ali (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) and Ameer Muawiya (Radiallahu ‘Anhu), as well as in the confrontation between Sayyadina Ali(Radiallahu ‘Anhu) and ‘Ayesha Siddiqah (Radiallahu ‘Anha) Like Hasan, (Radiallahu ‘Anhu), the elder son of Ali, (Radiallahu ‘Anhu), Abu Hurairah opposed the inter-Muslim conflicts.
 
6.    Lastly, due to his acclaimed trustworthiness and scholarship, he was appointed as the Governor of Bahrain during the reign of Caliph ‘Umar (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) – and to make the mark in the eyes of ‘Umar (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) is something very difficult. Later in his life, he was appointment the governor of Madinah during the Umayyad period due to the fact that he was one of the few remaining senior Sahabah in Madinah at the time. In addition to this, he was a prime candidate for leadership in Madinah especially when we consider that he was forwarded to lead the salah during the days of Caliph ‘Ali (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) and Ameer Muawiyah (Radiallahu ‘Anhu).
 
So why so much hatred for such a towering Sahabi by the conniving disbelieving Shi’ah? The answer is simple.
 
Many of the ahadith reported by Sayyadina Abu Hurairah (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) are used as the basis of our belief structure and practice. The Shi’ah can not fault Rasulullah (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi wa Sallam) – although they inwardly hate him,- so they rather find fault with those who transmitted his words. In their myopic view, if Sayyadina Abu Hurairah (Radiallahu ‘Anhu) is discredited, then a big chunk of Hadith could be discredited. His critics typically pick on one or two of his human frailties and give it a spin so as to paint him in a bad light, but they will never get it right – Insha Allah. The overall idea of the Shi’ah is that if some of the narrations of this great Sahabi is doubted, it would give them free license to pick whichever practices of our Islam suits them, and discard what does not. And this can only be the work of the hypocrites.
 
IN THE FINAL ANALYSIS, THE SHI’AH AND THE ENEMIES OF ISLAM SEEK TO DECEIVE AND LURE IGNORANT MUSLIMS INTO KUFR (DISBELIEF) BY MAKING EVIL LOOK INNOCENT. O MUSLIM UMMAH, LEARN YOUR DEEN, BE AWARE OF YOUR ENEMIES, AND DON’T JUST REPEAT ANYTING YOU HEAR FROM DUBIOUS SOURCES. MAY ALLAH TA’ALA PROTECT OUR IMAAN –  AMEEN.
 
Maulana Khalid Dhorat

 
  Ml Khalid Dhorat:
An Abandoned Sunnah After Reciting the Quraan.
A Sunnah which a great deal of people abandon after reciting the Quraan…
It is preferred, on finishing the recitation of the Quraan to say:
سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ وَبِحَمْدِكَ، أشهد أن لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ، أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْكَ
“SunhaanakaLlaahumma wabihamdik ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illaa anta astaghfiruka wa atuubu ilayk”.
The evidence for this is as follows:

‘Aaishah, may Allaah be pleased with her mentioned that:
The Messenger of Allaah (sal-Allaahu `alayhi wasallam)  was never in a sitting, never recited the Quraan, nor did he ever offer a prayer, except that he ended them all with certain words.

She added that: So i said to him, O Messenger of Allaah, I noticed that you never are in a sitting, nor do you ever recite the quraan, nor observe a solaat, except that you wnd ot off with these words ?

Yes, he replied. Whoever has said good (words) would have them placed as a seal over the good he has done and whoever has said evil (words) would have them used as an expiation for the evil he uttered.
(They are)

سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ وَبِحَمْدِكَ، أشهد أن لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ، أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْكَ).
Subhaanakallaahumma wabihamdik ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illaa anta astaghfiruka wa atuubu ilayk.
Unfortunately, these days, majority of the people (except those Allaah blesses) have abandoned this sunnah (either due to ignorance of it or due to forgetfulness). After reciting the Qur-aan, they replaced this sunnah with:

Sadaqallaahul adheem,

Or kissing the Qur-aan.
Thus, it is incumbent upon us to spread this sunnah so it can be established once again.
Imaam An-Nasaa’ee named the chapter of this hadeeth in his book as “What to conclude the recitation of the Quraan with.”

Its isnaad is authentic as explained by An-Nasaa’ee in “As-Sunanul kubraa”.
Ibn Hajar also mentioned in “An-Nukat” (733/2) that its chain of narration is authentic.
Shaykh Muqbil Al-Waadi’ee mentioned in “Al-Jaami’u Saheeh Mimmaa Laysa Fee Saheehayn” (128/2) that “this is an authentic narration”

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